|Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Let’s talk for a moment, shall we?
Social media, as we all know, is a blessing and a curse. As our lives become more mobile and our circle grows outside of our home state, it is an invaluable tool to keep up with friends and family in real time. The problem? It allows you to keep up with EVERYONE in real time. And, for some odd reason, we always seem to get a note on the ones we never want to hear from again.
You know the ones I’m talking about. All the people that “did you wrong’, ever, in life, somehow find a way to update everyone on their awesomely abundant existence. The childhood bully that just posted wedding photos (while you remain single “& loving it”). The ex that cheated on you updated their LinkedIn profile showing their snazzy promotion (while you’ve been stuck at that job for three years going nowhere fast). The business partner that left you high and dry with a mountain of bills just announced the anniversary of his successful venture (while you retreated to a 9-5 and never tried again). It’s enough to make you scream.
WHERE THE HELL IS KARMA WHEN YOU NEED IT????
But…is that REALLY how “karma” is supposed to work?
Like you, I grew up believing what goes around, comes around. What you put out comes back to you tenfold. Put good out, good comes back. Pick a platitude, I got it. But as I got older, I realized the key to all of this life reciprocity was…**wait for it**
Effort that does not include waiting for “good” to happen to you….or “bad” to happen to someone else.
See, there is a very clear difference between doing your best and being patient in the Universe’s time, and waiting for a result you believe you’ve “earned”. Especially if all you’ve done to “earn” it was…exist. You know what I speak of. The “nice” guy or girl who believes their dating prospects should be limitless because “nice”. The reliable co-worker who never made a peep in meetings who suddenly is upset because the flashy newcomer got a promotion. The girl next to you in the gym that does the same 1-hr run on the treadmill 3-times a week that complains to you her weight remains unchanged. Or me, the try-too-hard who keeps trying to steer her boat by predicting the tide by the sun instead of the moon.
What if, as you sat staring at the door that closed for you, the person that did you wrong was busy churning out intentional effort into the Universe? Is there a possibility that while you closed off your heart to spite the person that left you, they saw the err of their ways and committed themselves to being open and ready to receive and properly nourish love the next time it presented itself? What if, as you sat by the ashes of what became of your life, they decided that here, today, was the day they would begin to “get it right”?
Isn’t it time we started creating our own “karma” and stopped worrying about everyone else’s?
Now, let’s get two things straight-I am not saying you should allow people to run all over you unchallenged, nor am I saying that intentional effort produces instant, always-positive results. What I am saying is, once the chips have fallen, there is power in letting go and taking your life back. Nothing may be settled yet, but you have control over one thing-where to put your feet. I am telling you to put one foot in front of the other and move.
Sure, watching people who may have been cavalier with your life constantly improve theirs stings. Shit, it burns. But last time I checked, I was FAR from perfect. Their prosperity shows me that second chances exist. That I am able to rise above not only my wrongs, but the wrongs that were done to me. That putting on blinders and moving forward just might work for me, too. That there is another way.
As always, each post is a work in progress. But what has “karma”, or the lack of it, taught you in your life?